The 3 Hidden Qualifiers
When I say, "Qualifier", I'm referring to the feeling you have inside when you think about that thing or event you want to have happen. If your deeper feeling about it is any form of fear or resistance or in some way, "I'm not enough", you are disqualifying yourself from having it and you may not even be aware of this.
Like I say, these qualifiers hide in plain sight!
Maybe your desires are being held back because you have not fulfilled or released or eliminated one or more of these 3 Hidden Qualifiers.
Concerning the things you desire in life, notice how you feel when you ponder these three qualifying questions...
1. Do I Deserve it?
2. Am I Worthy Of It?
3. Do I Have A Right To It?
Let’s go deeper...
1. Do I Deserve It?
Deserving is a “Fairness” issue
THINK: Have I paid the price for it? Have I suffered enough for it? Have I given up enough for it? Have I sacrificed enough for it? Did I do it the way everyone else did it so it’s fair? Or did I TAKE it or steal it from someone else? Is it too easy for me to take some unfair advantage to get what I want? That would be unfair. Remember, your conscience is keeping score... even when you don't know it.
Maybe you have beliefs about fairness you are going against as you think about getting this thing you want. Your conscience will hold it against you and you may not realize it. Your EGO will fight to bury your conscience and that conflict will beat you. Your ego loves this kind of inner conflict. The ego thrives on conflict. Have I educated myself properly for it? Is it my creation or someone else’s? Do others agree I deserve it? Did I do it the easy way by cutting corners? Did I ignore my integrity to get it? Will others be jealous or feel like it’s not fair that I have it? Why is that? Things to look at. This thing you desire... Do you deserve it? It’s a "fairness" issue.
2. Am I Worthy Of It? Being Worthy is a “Morals” issue
Many people have a religious background. Or maybe not. Either way, many people’s early moral training has set certain expectations of themselves. Going against these possible expectations can cause resistance.
When you think about getting and having this thing you want... Am I spiritually clean enough? Am I pure enough? Am I of the right character? Am I righteous enough to have it? Have I proved myself worthy before God? Or… Do I have a sin or two that I have not come clean about yet? Is guilt keeping me from being successful? Keeping me from having this thing I want?
Your Conscience will hold it against you and you may not realize it. This creates inner conflict and quite often, we don't understand the conflict or why we have it. The ego Loves conflict! The ego fights to exist and conflict helps it stay alive in you. Is your ego involved here?
Have you been honest with yourself and others about it? Have you fulfilled your calling well enough to have it? Have you repented enough to have it? Have you stood before the proper authorities and confessed? Have they approved your worthiness?
Religion and Sin. The forgotten or buried belief that GOD’S Gonna Get You For That! The EGO says, “SO WHAT?” The ego tries to maintain your guilt and then justify it... which destroys you. So you might ask yourself, “This thing I desire... Am I worthy of it?” It’s a “morals” issue.
3. Do I have a Right to it?
Having The Right is a “Rules” issue.
Many people are more comfortable following the “rules”. When they don’t, inner chaos may begin to block their progress and success. It becomes easy to doubt yourself if you have rules about "following the rules" and don't realize it.
This thing I desire… Is it Honorable for me to have it? Am I Justified in having it? Do I have a Legitimate Claim to it? Do I have the proper authority? Did I cut in line to make sure I got mine? Did I bend the rules? Did I lie to get it?
Did you cheat? Did you swindle or con someone? Did you leave out some part of or all of the truth? Your deeper Conscience holds all of that. Many call it “Karma”. If you learned to have high integrity in your life when you were young and later changed your mind about your integrity, you are disrespecting the little kid in you who still holds that integrity and hurts when you lie or cheat.
Are you qualified to have it? Do you have the right education? Do the right people acknowledge your right to it? Do you have the “legal” right to claim it? Do you have the proper credentials? Certificates? Degrees?” “Are you following the law here?” Etc. Having the Right is a "rules" issue.
These are the Three Hidden Qualifiers. Most do not realize one or more of these are keeping them from realizing their dreams and desires.
Now you are aware!
Now you can use the Core Method to eliminate them and move forward with greater confidence.
One More Hidden Qualifier For Good Measure 4. Will I "Allow" Myself To Have Wealth And Success?” “Allowing” is a "Fear" issue.
You might be deserving, be worthy, and have the right to wealth and success.
But... will you “Allow” it?
Being ready, willing, and able to allow yourself to be, do, and have what you choose might be contingent on elements you aren’t aware of held deep within your own subconscious mind. Quite often these are called "limiting beliefs" or "self-defeating behaviors".
For example, you might truly believe you deserve financial success, are worthy of it, and have the right to have it. But… if you also hold a hidden belief that it would be disrespectful to have more financial success than your parents had, you may very well hold yourself back from “allowing” yourself to achieve it. This could be called “irrational loyalty” and you may not consciously realize this is why you’re denying yourself financial success.
Or maybe you have a hidden fear of what might happen to you if you have financial success or what you want. Maybe you know personally people who were attacked and robbed of their money causing serious trauma and deep down that idea scares you.
Maybe you know people who were severely criticized and even shunned for becoming wealthy. Maybe they lost good friends as a result. This happens to Lottery winners and people with real ambition who make something of their lives, unlike their friends and family. This follows the adage I learned in my NLP training – “People who are like each other tend to like each other. And people who are Not like each other tend to Not like each other.”
Maybe you’re afraid certain people will find out you have money and come looking to get as much as they can from you. It’s uncomfortable to find yourself in that situation. Or maybe they look for ways to just take it from you or hurt you in any way they can because now you’re better off than they are and their greed and or neediness and jealousy comes to the surface. This is not uncommon between the haves and have-nots. Desperation makes people do interesting things.
Maybe you have a belief that wealthy people are cold-hearted snobs and jerks and if you become wealthy, you will become the very thing you hate. Maybe you know of someone who ended up involved in terrible legal battles with creditors and the IRS because of “inappropriate wealth”. What’s “inappropriate wealth”? It’s wealth acquired by an individual who has never had it before and now feels like a fish out of water, not knowing what to do with it.
This would mean you are afraid you won’t be able to handle having a lot of money because it’s simply not like you to have it. Maybe you are afraid you’ll just lose it and end up worse off than before you had it. This happens to Lottery winners too. Or friends and family will hound you for your money and you hate saying “No” to people who you know can’t handle it either.
There are a million and one reasons a person might resist or not allow wealth to come into their life… even though they “think” they really want it. Look within and see if you can find any reason you might be resisting wealth or won’t “allow” yourself to have your desires because of some deep-seated fear of the loss, trouble, or judgment it might attract.
One last thing… these four hidden qualifiers can also cross over and overlap each other in strange and complicated ways.
This is where wealth and life coaching can help. Coaching helps you see your deeper self in ways you’ve never thought of.
The good news is that the Core Method can eliminate any and all hidden qualifiers in a matter of seconds.
Welcome to a very real world of possibilities.